如何做到圆融自洽？

如果做到圆融自洽，游刃有余，摆脱“紧人状态”？ 1、合理放弃：所谓的懒和贪不能同时存在，必须放弃一个； 2、接受不完美：坦然接受并同意自己的短板，不否定、不自责； 3、不介意别人的评价：“他人即地狱”，不要把评判权拱手让人。 How to achieve self-consistency and congruence. Easily cast off the tight state of mind？ Abandon sensibly：we cannot have our cake and eat it too，such as idleness and greed cannot be coexisted at the same time； Accept imperfection：calmly accept the weaknesses without self-denial and self-blame. No mind other's remarks：do not hand over the privilege of judgement to someone else which you should reserve.